The First Desperate Housewife
Micca Monda Campbell

“And it came to pass after these things, that his master’s wife cast her eyes upon Joseph; and she said, ‘Lie with me.’” Genesis 39:7 (KJV)

I admit it. I used to be a Soap fan when I was a teenager. Lured by the romance and drama, I assumed real life as an adult would play out in the same fashion. Boy, was I wrong! While there’s plenty of drama in my life, romance is something that has to be scheduled most of the time.

Real life isn’t like what we see on TV or read about in romance novels. In fact, these images can be dangerous to both single and married people alike. When our ideas about life leave us dissatisfied, we can easily be tempted to look at other options. Soap operas, pornography and romance novels encourage risky behavior that can lead to sin.

Often married people convince themselves that just looking or dreaming about being with someone other than their spouse is okay as long as they don’t actually do anything about it. Likewise, some single people feel that they can lust after another as long as they remain “physically pure.” Jesus said, “’But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart’” (Matthew 5:28 NIV). That goes for us gals, too.

I imagine that Potiphar’s wife could be described as the “first desperate housewife.” She didn’t have TV or a romance novel to read. She had something better, Joseph. He was the head workman in charge who conveniently lived in her home and was pleasing to her sight. Unknown to Joseph, he was about to become the prey of a desperate housewife.

This Egyptian woman didn’t happen to notice Joseph one day and then on the spur of the moment, ask Joseph to lie down with her. No. Our key verse tells us she “cast her eyes upon Joseph” and spoke with him day after day. In other words, she watched him, she flirted with him, and she dreamed about him until her sinful thoughts led to action. Her husband ought to have been to her a “covering of the eyes” from all others. Instead, with the lust in her heart, she was daring and shameless in her sin.

How do we keep from falling into such sin? We should follow Job’s example. "’I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a girl [or boy]’” (Job 31:1). We each have a great need and responsibility to make a covenant with our eyes. Remember that children’s song often sang in Sunday school ... “Be careful little eyes what you see? Oh, be careful little eyes what you see. For the Father up above is looking down in love. Oh, be careful little eyes what you see.”

We can protect our eyes by choosing not to watch movies, pornography or TV shows that glamorize sexuality and can lead us into temptation. Our own husbands should be the covering of our eyes that protect us from looking at others. Besides, the grass is not always greener on the other side. I guarantee that guy doesn’t clip his toe nails regularly either.

I also realize that we are human and we make mistakes. No one is perfect this side of heaven. That’s why it’s so important to be on guard. Another way to safe guard ourselves is to commit to taking hold of any lustful thoughts and quickly put them out of our minds. Temptation is not a sin. It’s when we dwell on the temptation that we are led to sinful actions. Don’t be like Potiphar’s wife. Ask God to give you “eyes” for the spouse you already have.

Dear Lord, Forgive me for where I have fallen short. I commit to You today to take every lustful thought captive so that it doesn’t lead me into sin. May all my thoughts be pleasing to You, in Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Related Resources:
What a Husband Needs from His Wife by Melanie Chitwood

Becoming the Woman of His Dreams, Seven Qualities Every Man Longs For
by Sharon Jaynes

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Application Steps:
If you are having trouble in this area, find a trustworthy accountability partner who you can share honestly with about your struggles. Agree to hold each other accountable to God’s truths and to pray for one another. When these thoughts enter your mind, turn to God’s Word, prayer and your accountability partner.

In what ways can you protect your eyes from lustful images?

Practice thinking on what is true, right and pure.

Are you addicted to soap operas or romance novels? If so, what steps will you take today to move away from this stronghold in your life?

Power Verses:
2 Corinthians 10:5, “We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.” (NIV)

Philippians 4:8, “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things.” (NIV)

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Anonymous Anonymous said...

Oh boy! Was I ever guilty of adultery in the heart. I used to be on line dating and found myself very much attracted to this one particular profile and didn't realized I was falling into another trap of the enemy. Only now I realized that the Lord never takes His eyes off me even when I was being an adulterous woman @ heart. He was and always have been faithful to me. My Perfect Mate, Lover and a Great Provider and my Best Friend "Ask God to give you “eyes” for the spouse you already have." Yes! thank God for opening my eyes and the reality of life unlike the soap opera which I was never hooked into, but still the enemy set a trap on my path through the internet dating. The truth is I have felt like Hosea's wife, another one of the desperate housewife who returned to her true and loyal Husband (Jesus).

Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have only recently started to "notice" other men. I used to completely understand my husband being a sheild for my eyes! All people used to look the same to me and I didn't notice attractive men anymore than unattractive. That is beginning to change. This is a result of YEARS of my husband looking at other women and telling me that it only bothers me because I am insecure. Thank you for this reflection. It has given me three things to think about. The first is that I need to stop my own looking right now before it becomes lustful. I will recognized it's danger and nip it in the bud TODAY! No matter how much the world around us says it's "normal." The second is that I don't feel badly now that his looking bothers me. After reading your words, I think it should. The third is that I can't stop him - only God can - and I need to let Him take control and just pray for my husband.

Blogger Lisa said...

I think about how we can become adulterous in our relationship with God as well. As we look to other means of satisfaction than to the Lord.

Good message for marriage. Since our marriages are suppose to be the symbol of our relationship with him. We nee to all guard our thoughts and eyes. I had just sang that song to my daughter this week. Using it to remind her about a few things. ;O)

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